They say be careful what you wish for

I say that often, too. Even though I sometimes dream without precision, because apparently, if you say a few things jokingly, the Universe might as well deliver. The glitch here, or shall I say the fairness of it all, is that you will get exactly that. That’s how last June I found myself on a date with a real 28-year-old virgin who was trying to convert my 10% of my income to his church. But that’s a story for another day.

In my line of work, aka working with people, I rarely get a straight answer either. In my client’s defence, I do, however, get a very straight and precise answer to what they don’t like. And that is all great, but neither I nor the Universe can get into your brain and search for the right answer ourselves. This is why it is important to sometimes just sit with not only bad emotions, like we’ve been taught in the last couple of years, but also with good emotions, dreams, and desires. The more precise you get for yourself, the better the wish will be coming through. And for fuck’s sake, be delusional.

As a Slavic babe who grew up in a slightly toxic and traumatic environment, I was trained by my bloodline to always think “worst case scenario”.

Fucking borrrriiiinnnngggg.

So now, every time my brain even pivots at the slightest towards that ridiculous phrase, I immediately slap that thought mentally, and proceed with “best possible scenario”, and best believe, that does cure you in a way.

Negativity or inaction towards those thoughts is basically a weapon of mass destruction. Your self-destruction.

We don’t need it.

And if you are careful with what you wish for and surrender, you might as well get what you want and more. The key, in my understanding, is to be completely obsessed not only with the vision and final result, but also with the journey itself. The work you do for yourself, for improving your life, work, whatever that is, should feel like every day is the best damn day. Even if you cry or lie dead on the sofa (balance or whatever shenanigans you want to call it), this should still be a part of the process.

So that you can look back and say, “Look at you coming through like you said you would”.

For instance, as a stylist, I can easily tell you what o wear based on your physical appearance and what vibe I sense from you. But there is a very high possibility that you won’t like all of it. If you don’t tell me what you want, I can’t guess. You see where I am going with this?

And I know that dressing up sometimes feels like a chore, but it shouldn’t.

I can fix that. Just book a free intro call, and we will figure it out together.

Now onto the honourable mentions this week: Book of the week: Becoming Bulletproof by Evy Poumpouras, so no worst-case scenario gets to you.

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Never forget who the fuck you are, bestie x

Okay, that’s all.

Love you, bye xo

Your neurospicy fashion stylist,

Aya x