Intimidate the fuck out of them

Want to learn how? Book a FREE consultation with me. I am dead serious. It is free. I’ve got little time that is free in my calendar (yes, it totally colour coded) and I want to give it to you. Yeah, I said that. I dare you to do it. Promise, as a side effect, after the call you might will feel rebellious and wonderful. As a stylist I, obviously, would tell you how to do that with clothes and accessories as your main tools.

No, because why aren’t we living the best lives as women. As someone who create literal life. Whose beauty made man jealous their entire existence. Whose love the world needs the most.

I think for me as majority of you, my gorgeous readers, it comes from early childhood where you as a girl were raised with so many expectations that by the time you hit puberty you were kinda over it already, when boys just started discovering that they might have something of a frontal lobe, not yet developed obviously, if ever. So then we were taught how to dress to be perceived this or the other way to the male gaze. To go deeper on the topic, I’d suggest Women Living Deliciously.

I remember I was so objectified by tea time I was 17 years old that I would subconsciously excessively wear pants/trousers/jeans and you would not detect any skirt in my wardrobe, since every time I would wear anything remotely “girly” I would be hit on by men from teens to someone who is older than my grandfather. Then I moved countries, Nothing much changes on the men side (duh), but something did change within me where I decided I won’t let anyone anymore to dim my personality, my figure, my desire to look the way I want. And let’s be frank I am dressing up for the girlies gaze, everything I do is for the bitches. And not because sometimes I question why I am straight woman, but because girlies just get it. We are cool like that.

Unfortunately, the truth is, if you decide to centre men and not yourself, it will only get you deeper the rabbit hole of so-called style of how you SHOULD dress like and not how you WANT to dress up.

The revolution begins when you are decide you’ve had enough, and actually look deep inside within you to discover who the fuck you are. If you don’t know — I help you discover that too.

One thing to tattoo in your brain/conscious/subconscious is that no one can be you. No one can pull the outfits you can because they don’t have the vision you do. You might need a little courage and that’s why I’m here.

Being an adult I realised how amazing it is to find women who will support you, guide you, and simply be there, encouraging you just with their existence. Being a girl’s girl is the best thing that ever happened to me. I strongly believe that we can benefit from having a community of women who gathered together in the name of style and encouraging friendship. Hence my humble invitation to the chat (no fees, just styling and fun) so we can expand and have a safe space.

And please don’t take my take on men as there will be no place to select an outfit for the date. Of course we will help you out to pick the best outfit for a special night. Because once you are in the. right clothes, the brain chemistry alters and you become exactly who the fuck you think you are. And yeah, fuck being humble. There, I said that.

Here is a little exercise before I leave you to your day, take some time today and think what you want your personal style to look like. And if you immediately went to what you don’t want — I’ll stop you right there. Think what you WANT. How do you want people to see you (use adjectives, movie/book/tv show characters), how do you want to feel in the clothes that you are wearing. Being comfortable while feeling sexy is actually very much possible to achieve. Having polar wants is also totally normal. You are a complex being, a beautiful woman, and you a more than entitled to being more than just sexy, more than just smart, more than just romantic or dramatic. I am all of the above and everything in between. Depending on my mood and timeline of my life.

Sit with that for a cruel of day, think if that is something that you really feel like and find aesthetics that you think will fall into all your categories. For example, this year, I am channeling my inner Siren and greek Goddess. And then sticking to my dramatic and rule-breaking aesthetic while craving adding more romantic elements to it. For you to being able to communicate that with yourself and then to me as your personal styling bestie, you should identify those adjectives based on your inner core, desires, improvements, and let’s not forget your lifestyle. because, trust me when I say you can incorporate a night gown to your office outfits. Here is on of the examples how others do it.

Okay, that’s all.

Love you, bye xo

Your slightly nonchalant fashion stylist,

Aya x