Call me Nara Smith of your personal style

Invest in basics, and have a style, but not this one. To look stylish you need to lose weight.

Clean girl aesthetic, mob wife aesthetic, Adam Sandler aesthetic. A full wardrobe of clothes yet nothing to wear. Blah blah blah

The answer to all of your problems is having an individual style.

I know. Groundbreaking.

I have decided to keep my weekly gibberish to a minimum and get into more groundbreaking topics. Like personal style, whether you want to find yourself and create a new style from scratch ( I am your Nara Smith on this one) or you’ve been slacking a bit on a level of what to wear to the point, that grey sweatpants and a hoodie or jeans and a tee became the only things you wear, so you need to raise from the ashes of your laziness like a damn Phoenix.

Sounds like I am reading your mind? Keep going.

Since I am working quite hard on building my business as a personal stylist, I decided it is time to also promote and introduce you to the upcoming launches that are extremely exciting and will take a lot of your stylish headache away.

Let’s get to the exact point of personal style and how it forms.

Does it mean that only clothes and money are involved in the process? No.

Does it mean that a personal stylist you would hire will create for you a copy-pasted style stripped from their own closet? Absolutely not.

Money, clothes, accessories, personal stylists, and TikTok videos are simply tools to help you look beyond the mentioned. The first thing I would ask you as a personal stylist — what do you want to achieve?

The answer I usually get

But that is indeed not that simple. I will hold your hand when I say it: You have to, at least, have a remote idea of what you want. Only then I will keep holding your hand while I give you potential examples of what you might want.

Knowing and understanding what you want to change and/or enhance is the key and important first step to upgrading your style. There is always room for improvement (that’s a product manager in me, can’t help it).

So step 1 — identify your main goal and subgoals. This is practically what you want to achieve. Could be finally getting the basic items to your wardrobe or as I like to call it — no-brainer outfits. Could be achieving a more polished or finalised look, getting the attitude for every outfit just like Bad Gal RiRi does it. Or could be throwing the majority of the clothes away and reinventing yourself.

“If you have seen my style nowadays it is quite bold and daring, however, there were times in my early late teens and early 20s when I did not feel comfortable when people would stare at me so I used clothes to cover myself up (hello sweatpants and hoodies). Then one day I decided to change that because no matter what I was feeling at the time, my core would not feel comfortable wearing that.”

Step 2 — identify your core. Your inner personalities and tendencies. What you like what you don’t like. Look at it from the point of a human being. Perhaps you are leaning towards more romantic clothes, but have never actually worn much of those. Only maybe in your secret dreams. Use different styles online (how many times should I tell you to utilize Pinterest) and aesthetics as a reference to understand your main 2–3 styles. Important to have a few styles so that your outfits won’t end up looking like costumes. Unless that i your goal, who am I to judge?

Step 3 — get to know your body and face. Be fair but don’t discourage anything about yourself. You are beautiful in any shape and colour ❤️

Look at your body and face shape to identify what you would like to show and what you prefer to be not as visible to people. For instance, You like your arms and shoulders but try to hide your belly (probably most common among my clients). Make sure you understand what suits your shape and your preferences and what you should avoid at all costs. Note to you: you probably don’t like those feathers so don’t try to incorporate those.

Leave me a comment under this post or any of my posts on social media channels (or DM me) for that matter if you don’t know how to style something that you adore. It would be my pleasure.

Step 4 — get your life together. And I mean it. Understand where you tend to spend your days. For example, if you mostly work from home and occasionally leave the house to see those 2 friends of yours — you probably don’t need 17 evening gowns in your closet, just saying.

Step 5 — audit your closet. Lay everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, onto the surface and try each item one by one. See what fits, what is not for you anymore, what is just too old and needs replacement (if you invested in a good pair of jeans 7 years ago…baby, they were not meant to last literal infinity. Replace them). Use those core styles to see if each item fits that style. If not — trash!

Use common sense and play some of your favourite music. This might take a while. Also, best to perform such acts per season. You don’t want to be sweating in those fur coats during the summer weather.

If you are terrified to do an audit yourself — I happen to offer wardrobe consultations…

Step 6 — missing items. Now using the inspiration from your core styles and what have left in your closet after the audit — identify what items are missing.

Divide them into two categories: Basic items (those jeans that need replacement) and Fun items (you are missing s statement piece in the form of a bag or a dress, or whatever tbh).

Needless (I hope) to say Basics would be a priority, and the Fun category last.

Now off you go or fly to the physical or online stores to find those items. Before actually buying things make sure you measure yourself and study the size chart OF EACH brand you are ordering from.

In case you don’t have the capacity to do it all on your own with minimum knowledge yet not ready to work with a stylist 1 on 1 — I have a treat for you.

What if I told you I have been working on something very exciting? Would pay me for it?

No seriously, would you?

Because mark your calendars, October 18th, 2024 your problems have been addressed and resolved. Signature Identity style guide is making its debut in society.

That will be a long-ass PDF ready for you to purchase that was built for you with a mixture of fashion, science, and behaviour analysis to help you embrace your inner light and character to become unapologetically yourself.

You will learn how to differentiate all styling services and identify what you need to focus on first to build your personal style, unleash your unknown aesthetics, find your signature look, and manage it all with your budget.

I have decided to create this guide with a goal in mind — to provide people with needed necessary knowledge on how to dive into your own world and teach how to express all your inner beauty to the outside world using fashion and style as tools and, of course, make it affordable and accessible for all.

Now if you are working as hard as me these days, I highly recommend the TV series of the week — Presumed Innocent on Apple and/or Aesthetic Intelligence to unwind.

That’s all.

Okay, love you, bye xo

Your slightly nonchalant fashion stylist,

Aya x