Burn it down

Exactly a year ago I felt stuck in my life more than ever, despite the fact that I was finally living in my dream city and working in top consulting firm in the world.

Something felt suffocating and deeply unhappy which was extremely alarming for my brain and my soul. So the decision was made to emerge 2024 with the mindset set for a major glow up.

Not so much on the outside glow up but my soul depth needed a change. And so here I am a year later reflecting on the year and can’t be happier where it got me.

I think every glow up should start with inner work before anything else. Not going to lie, I went to extreme measures because I get obsessed with things, people, and ideas very quickly so in order to really focus, I stopped dating, quick drinking alcohol, and began therapy again.

In all fairness, first half a year I was somewhat in between and going back to those toxic traits just like Rihanna was coming back that once to Chris Brown.

But then one day I was just laying in my bed staring at the ceiling and feeling miserable. The old traits weren’t working for me. I needed to burn those to the ground to make room for new me.

So I would say healing and being that girl as a concept is the same thing. There is no way back once to fully embody “That Girl” for yourself. Look at John Galliano and his majestic art while being 14 years sober.

Speaking of an enormous number. This week I released trauma that was holding onto me for 13 years! Apparently I have been holding very dark energy that was placed on me without my consent. The feeling of release was incredible and tiring at the same time.

So could be your personal style. How many times we all got frustrated that the outfit we so carefully planned in our heads — didn’t work out in real life? How many times you buy something and then after wearing it a couple of times you don’t feel the excitement anymore? Just like with a man that gave you the ick.

Keeping up with busy life while maintaining your own style is a lot. Think of every time you were going after that specific “old money” aesthetic cardigan in the mid July and nothing was even close to being simple and fitting you right.

Hot Mama Bakery will take that struggle away. Work smart not hard, right?

And today obviously I had to have the epiphany of sorts. I thought to myself why limit you besties to joining every calendar month when you can be joining weekly.

You receive welcome guide and all the needed details right away so that you can deep dive into specifics at your own time and pace, but then jump straight to the community and topics that will give you immediate access to evolving. Isn’t that great? I thought of it all by myself. Yeeeeaaaahhhhh.

And to sum up, I am sure you all heard the news about all the new creative directors, so I won’t repeat here what you already know. But what I would like to point out is how fast Ferrari is to dropping fire collections the minute Luis finished the final race with Mercedes. They have been back to serving since 2022, what if the initial conversation between Luis and them started that time?

And in case you are still not done with Christmas presents here are 3 easy gifts for you to select from that don’t break the budget:

1. The Story of Art without Men — if you know, you know. If you don’t — still get one for your nonchalant bestie x

2. Your Savage Soul. Wall calendar to keep you in your Savage best x

3. Hot Mama Elevated Edge. I mean do I even need to add anything here?

P.S. the more I go through therapy, letting go of old traumas, and truly embrace myself the more authentic to myself I feel. Meaning I am at my most honest phase. Some might call it mean, but hey, I am simply a mirror xWish you to heal the same.

That’s all.

Okay, love you, bye xo

Your slightly nonchalant fashion stylist,

Aya x