Adopt “I have nothing to lose” mentality when it comes to you style

Missed me?

I bet you did, little flirt.

I did flirt last week too. Had to make sure I still got my game going on. So as any single respectful woman who doesn’t have time to date, I went to flirt with someone at the Apple Store. Crazy things can happen in your life when your brain starting to get into mentality “I have nothing to lose”. Please don’t confuse with bank robbers type of attitude.

Where I am leading with this? Glad you asked.

See, it is all about confidence. And I know you have heard that one a million times.

But what a lot of us don’t know/often forget is that none of us was actually born with such helpful tool. We develop one. But can’t really keep it intact if we do not constantly exercise it with inner brain chemistry (self-talk) and also with outside world (through flirting, open shoulders, and style).

And you are correct, you don’t need to have a style to be happy in life, but that sure helps. Clothes are one of the easiest ways to exercise confidence and to interact with the world.

Once you feel confident in your own skin and clothes — you relax, your shoulders straighten and fall back (I know you know the feeling), your walk and entire attitude to the world changes within seconds. You feel good about yourself. You are more open to the pleasant energy. It is simple science laws of psychology.

If you are ready to use those little tricks on everyday basis but don’t know where to start — I got you in 3 different ways.

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To sum up, these last few weeks taught me to let go of my delicious control and let the energy to its work (yes, still single, and yes will be flirting around London more). My point is when stepped into “What I have to lose” mentality, somehow, wonderful people just started finding me, striking a conversation, and just made me feel good despite my struggles. And of course it is now all pink and unicorn out there. Diabolical people made me take a step back from them and remember to always mind my business and get them out of my head (does not apply to slow tourists in London city, thank you).

Apply the same tactic when cleaning the wardrobe (yes, it is that time of the year) for the winter season. Let go of the things that no longer has the space and invite new trends, new style, and new exoeriences into your style and life. If you are on the limited budget — try to play and pair things that you already have. That is my fashion tip of the week for you. Conveniently so, Signature Identity style guide (available in two languages) can teach you exactly how to do all the above in this paragraph.

Last but not least, PLAYLIST (I know) of the week has arrived.

Never Split The Difference is my additional obsession.

That’s all.

Okay, love you, bye xo

Your slightly nonchalant fashion stylist who is still bravely fighting bureaucracy,

Aya x