Take it as a compliment and move towards the emergency exit immediately

I always get what I want. People been calling me out on this loads. A lot of people openly laughed in my face, saying I am cocky, and that is simply not true.

The truth number one.

Leave immediately if anyone ever tries to limit you. You were never meant to spend time in anyone’s cage (unless it’s your kink, then do right by you). Capitalism is caging enough as it is. So why allow people to put you in a box? Even thinking about it always gives me a micro claustrophobic attack.

In case of the alarming phrase “You are too much”, take it as a compliment and move towards the emergency exit immediately.

The truth is, you can never be too much.  You are just not for people who want less. There will always be someone who thinks you are acting weird, doing too much, being cringy or whatever kids call it nowadays. All of it is just a simple noise that you don’t need to listen to. If it doesn’t pay your bills, pay it no mind.

The truth number two. 

I do get what I want; however, it doesn’t mean I get what I want in that exact second. Guess this is where other people are trying to put their limiting beliefs on you. Some things take time, energy, collapsing, lives colliding. For example, I am reaching the goals today that I wanted for 13 years.

Another good example, the goal to live in London was set for me by me at the age of 9. I moved here in my 30s.

One side effect that no one is admitting to is that what you wish for always finds you, and if it finds you throughout some time, the chances are you might not want it anymore. And that’s where it could strike a nerve.

No one talks about how it’s okay not to want things anymore. As a slavic girlie, for the longest, I had trauma to not being able to let go of the book I was reading, no matter how horrible that book was. You have to finish it.

Do I really? No.

It is also okay to get a taste of what you wanted for a long time and not find it delicious. I tell people, be careful what you wish for. And I mean it. In both loving and threatening ways. Depends on what terms we are in, in my head. My point is to be very precise with what you want. I mentioned it before, but my clients are telling me a lot about what they don’t like, don’t want when we work on refreshing or revamping their personal style. But it’s all nice and stuff to know what trends, colours, textures, and fabrics you don’t enjoy. However, you should ask yourself what you DO like. And not blidly going copying Pinterest outfits that you will never wear.

Try to seek inspiration in anything, but not outfits you see. Here is the example of what I mean. Art of Inspiration is what will keep your eyes engaged and eventually trained with various colours, colour combinations, textures, and in no time, you will start to see the beauty and outfit possibilities in anything you see. Be precise, be bold with your choices (whatever that means toyou personally), and never forget who the fuck you are x

Now onto the honourable mentions this week:

Brand to pay attention to this week: Kervin Marc Designs

Book of the week: Visual Intelligence

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Love you, bye xo

Your neurospicy fashion stylist,

Aya x